If you care for someone with Autism then I’m certain you can agree with me that many days your patience is tested. You cannot give in to manipulative behaviors. YOu have to say what you mean, and mean what you say. In my experience caring for someone with Autism there has been a lot of tough love. There have been many nights where I feel like a horrible mother because of how “stern/strict I have to be at times”. Routine is necessary, structure is crucial, and there has to be rules and consequences/rewards in place. I have been guilty of saying no, then giving in because I feel bad. Trust me, once your loved one/child has figured out where your soft spot is and how they can manipulate to get what they wont, they will and it only becomes worse as they get older. Consistency will save your life. Having a solid routine that is not overwhelming will help your days carry out much smoother. At the present moment we are trying Tiimo and so far we love the features it has vs. Goally. This visual planner will help with focus, schedules, routines and reminders for Camryn and I. It’s important that your loved one understands the routine and everyone feels comfortable with the routine/schedule.
Also, if the routine must be changed discuss it with your child or loved one before the change is made to eliminate additional anxiety, fear, concern.
ALSO, VISUAL SCHEDULEs ARE HELPFUL IN THE BATHROOM, BEDROOM, KITCHEN, ETC. HAVING A Calendar THAT IS PICTURE FRIENDLY WILL ALSO HELP WITH ORIENTATION, REMINDERS AND DATES. CAMRYN IS IN MIDDLE SCHOOL NOW AND HAS CERTAIN TASKS AND CHORES MASTERED TO WHERE SHE DOES NOT NEED REMINDERS. she is ABLE TO COMPLETE certain tasks INDEPENDENTLY, HOWEVER WE DID USE VISUAL REMINDERS IN AREAS OF OUR HOME.
YOUR Family’s ROUTINE WONT LOOK LIKE ANOTHER FAMILYS ROUTINE AND THATS OK. YOU MUST DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU AND KEEPS THINGS SMOOTH AND EFFECTIVE. IT WILL BE TRIAL AND ERROR. YOU WILL MESS UP AND GET OFf SCHEDULE, THATS OK. GET BACK ON AND KEEP TRYING, KEEP PUSHING TOWARDS GOALS AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS; meeting MILESTONES. I WOULD BE A COMPLETE LIE IF I SAID ITS GOING TO BE OK. THE SHIT WILL BE HARD, BUT YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT.